Nigerian Grammy-winning star Temilade Openiyi, popularly known as Tems, has opened up about the traits she considers absolute deal-breakers in a relationship.

In a candid conversation with Complex, the “Love Me Jeje” singer explained that she cannot be with anyone who lacks warmth or genuine curiosity. According to her, friendship and interest form the backbone of any meaningful relationship.

“If someone isn’t trying to be your friend, that’s a huge red flag,” Tems said. “And if they aren’t curious about you—your thoughts, your life—then what are we doing? Why are we here if you don’t want to know me?”

Tems described herself as a natural “lover girl,” but noted that past experiences have taught her to choose more carefully. She emphasized that a partner who has no desire to truly know you is not worth holding on to.

Away from her thoughts on love, Tems also reflected on her remarkable rise in the music industry. During a recent Q&A session with fans on X, the singer revealed that her achievements have already surpassed the dreams she had before fame.

Tems, who left her job as a digital marketer in early 2018 to pursue music full-time, dropped her debut single “Mr Rebel” that same year—ushering her into the limelight. Her global breakthrough came in 2020 when she collaborated with Wizkid on the smash hit “Essence.” The Justin Bieber-assisted remix soared to No. 9 on the Billboard Hot 100, solidifying her international presence.

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Responding to a fan asking what she looks forward to and whether she has fulfilled her pre-fame ambitions, Tems said: “I’m looking forward to whatever God has planned. And honestly, I’ve achieved far beyond the dreams I had when I was working a 9–5.”

Her journey continues to inspire fans around the world as she embraces both personal growth and limitless musical horizons.